So this is something I have learnt along my travel journey so far.
There is a time and a place for vulnerability, especially in this world where at the moment there is much disconnect and projection as we make our way to the 5th dimension. Not all have yet come to understand they are responsible for how they think, feel and behave.
I had read so much about being vulnerable, many great books by some wonderful coaches and authors, and additionally I had really been giving it some focus the past 12 months whilst starting to learn about polarity.
I have been trying to be increasingly vulnerable over the past 12 months having realised that maybe this was the reason for some of the issues in my last relationship. I had become aware that I was happy to be vulnerable, but only once I'd worked through the thing that was making me feel vulnerable - so this then actually isn't being all that vulnerable. Vulnerability is when we are speaking the thing we feel in the same moment as feeling the vulnerability of doing so (my definition not dictionary!) not once we have taken the time to work through and process it.
The other thing I have learnt though, whilst practising this, is that not everyone is deserving of our vulnerability, because it is a gift, nor can everyone be trusted with our vulnerability.
I have certainly learnt during my travels that we must be discerning with our vulnerability, otherwise we may open ourselves up to being manipulated, taken advantage of or emotionally harmed. Only some months ago I would have said this was not so, I would have told you we need to be vulnerable with everyone we come into contact with because that help them to show up with their vulnerability, I would have told you I don't care what people do with my vulnerability because I can withstand whatever happens. This may still be so, but it's not the point.
You see though, when you are sharing vulnerably, you are allowing your heart to be very seen, and what I have learnt is this; not everyone has the capacity to hold our heart with the tenderness, respect, honouring and love that it deserves.
This is in no way a blog to say we must protect our heart, I do not believe this at all, I feel this causes the heart to become closed or fearful. This is only a blog to share that it is now my belief that we must be discerning how much of our heart and with whom we should share, we are responsible for taking care of our heart.
Travel has allowed me to see this and to make better judgement of those with whom my heart will be held.
And we are of course responsible for, and it is self loving to learn, how to hold our own hearts and vulnerability.
Sending love from my vulnerable heart to yours.
Think of your vulnerability like a kitten, and some people are not the kind of people that can look after a kitten no are they!
Write to me if you would like to receive a free holding your heart energetic healing practice.
Sam xxx
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